I started my spiritual journey over 10 years ago and it’s been a loving and hell raising endeavour. I’ve been very blessed to have incredible teachers and mentors along the way and of course, I’m grateful for Allan who helped me start down this path.
While I make it sound rosy, it wasn’t. It was a lot of temper tantrums, snot filled heart wrenching crying, stripping away who I thought I was to become who I was supposed to be and of course, some incredible highs of achieving connections with the divine that are indescribable and something I wish everyone could experience at some point in their lives. It’s better than any drug you could possibly take.
Along the way, a number of people have exclaimed that they want to do what I do! They want to hear spirits and they want to work with spirits. They want to be just like me!
I’m humbled when people make these types of comments and I always reply that they don’t want to be like me…they want to be like themselves and bring their gifts to the world. After all, we’re all crazily unique and fabulous individuals so why wouldn’t you want to be like yourself?
In counselling them to be themselves, I also provide three basic steps for them to follow to develop their gifts: 1. Take responsibility for your life; 2. Decide to heal and 3. There is only love or fear.
Step 1: Taking responsibility for your life means accepting, without judgement of yourself and others, you’re exactly where you are because of decisions you’ve made for your life. NO ONE has ever MADE you do anything you didn’t want to do.
Sure, we start playing games with ourselves about so and so who told me to do this and told me to do that or I was forced to do this and forced to do that. We can’t control what we’re taught as children but as adults, we absolutely have control over what we choose to do with our lives. That includes unlearning the crap we learned as children.
Say to yourself: “I am exactly where I am because of decisions I’ve made for my life. I am at peace with this.”
With this statement you regain control of your life. Repeat it until it becomes solidified in your being and your heart. Cry the tears you need to, get angry as much as you need to, beat a pillow as much as you want to, do whatever it is you need to get yourself to a point where you accept the truth: you are exactly where you are because of decisions you’ve made for your life.
Step 2: Decide you are going to heal EVERYTHING. Don’t cherry pick what you’re going to heal, heal it all. Be bold in facing fears and beliefs. Step forward with conviction in healing past lives and patterns that no longer serve. Be willing to let go of people who add no value to your life and suck your energy. Trust me when I tell you that energy vampires will find others to suck energy from and you shouldn’t be one of them.
Make a decision that every time you feel out of sorts, you’ll check if it’s yours and if it is, you’ll heal it until you get to the root of the fear. Once you heal the root, you’ll no longer carry that fear in your body. If it isn’t yours, let that shit go. Release it like a balloon into the sky and let the wind take it away.
Be done with living out of balance. Heal it.
Step 3. Understand there is only love or fear. There is nothing else. We humans are funny in that we slice and dice emotions. We can’t keep shit simple. I’ve had many conversations with people that go something like this:
“blah blah blah and they hurt my feelings (or insert some negative event or emotion here.)” someone would lament.
“Ah,” I reply. “What fear is driving that?”
“Oh, no!” they exclaim. “It’s not fear, it’s anger.”
“Anger is fear,” I respond.
“No, anger is not fear, it’s anger,” they retort.
“Is anger love?” I ask.
“Then it’s fear.” I persist.
“No! Anger is anger.” they insist.
At that point, I bless them on their journey and I drop the conversation. I’m not sure why the idea of a non-loving emotion being fear freaks people out however, I would highly recommend you be willing to simplify your life into love or fear. The simplicity of love or fear means you can immediately heal fear without trying to figure out if it’s anger or jealousy or anxiety or whatever. That’s a human ego need that, to spirit, is totally irrelevant and simply an ego exercise.
One of my favourite expressions: if it ain’t love, it’s fear.
As I said earlier, I am humbled when people feel like they want to do what I do when I know they need do them. Regardless, if you want to be like me, you will have to heal as much as I’ve healed.
Are you ready to dedicate 3 years of your life healing over 250 past lives, healing fears and beliefs at the root, breaking vows, releasing promises and letting go of everyone you know and love? Are you ready to understand life from your heart space rather than from your emotions and head space? Are you ready to let go of everything you think you know and unlearn everything you’ve been taught?
If you’re ready, you can do what I do.
Until then, do you. I’m already taken.