It is also said our #2 fear is dying. I believe it is connected to the unknown. What does it mean when we die? Where do we go? Is that it? Do we only get one chance at this thing called life? Regardless of what your beliefs are, I would challenge this fear. I would suggest we are NOT afraid of dying...we are afraid of not having LIVED.
Having hit 50 years old last year brought a great truth to me. I had not truly lived in those 50 years. So many opportunities I said no to because I was afraid of being judged, ostracized. As a child, the expression I heard most often and took to heart was "don't embarrass me." My magically free spirit was suddenly boxed in by another person's insecurities and fear of judgment. I made that insecurity and fear my own. I lived someone else's belief.
Let's be clear on something. As a child, I had no control over what my parents and other adults taught me but as an adult, I am at choice as to what I do with those teachings. I can continue to live my life by those beliefs or I could choose to unlearn and find my truth. That is totally my choice. I also have forgiven myself for what I have or have not done in my life. My past has made me who I am today and I quite love myself.
I consider myself a change agent. I love waking people up. I love the idea of making others aware of their own greatness. Once they get past their own limiting beliefs and the light in their eyes spark, I continue to fan the flame until it is fully ignited and burning through the resistance of self-doubt. Everyone is truly capable of greatness and we each are entitled to live that life.
We are not made to be small and insignificant. We are made to live in the full glory of who we are and who we choose to be. There are too many graveyards filled with unfulfilled dreams and glory. We define what our dreams are. We define what glory means. It could be as incredible as being a stay at home parent or as monumental as climbing Mount Everest. There is no judgement in what you believe your dreams and glory are. We are not here to compare dreams and glory, to say mine is better than yours. We are here to explore this thing called life in any way we sit fit and that works for us. Our hearts are filled with potential and when we engage that potential the world is never the same. The world evolves, grows and is that much brighter because you had the courage to say YES to life.
Say YES to life. Say YES to life. SAY YES TO LIFE!
At the beginning of this blog, I mentioned the #1 fear of humans is public speaking because we are afraid of being judged and ostracized. The #2 fear is dying. I would challenge the two are actually very deeply linked in that every day we continue to fear judgement and suppress our dreams is another day where our souls die a little more until one day, we have no soul left, the flame is smothered and we simply wait for our time to die.
Every day is the first day of the rest of our lives. What are you going to do with the time you have left? Are you going to say YES to life or are you going to follow the rest of the living dead?