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In my younger days, drama was my go to, my life force, my reason for existing. I loved my drama. I was the drama queen and I could pass a rumour around faster than a race car driver tearing up an oval. I was careful not to change the story though because if it was wrong, I could easily point the finger at someone else because I heard it from them. If someone was in the mire, I got right down with them on all fours and rolled in it.
Not a pretty picture but there it is. Exposed for everyone to see and read.
Over the years, life lessons and a desire for peace slowly and surely hacked away at my need for drama. I was afraid to fully let go though because drama brought me attention. It wasn't necessarily good attention but it was attention. Now, ironically, I prefer solitude and peace. I have a low tolerance level for anyone or anything that impinges on my zen.
Being 50 years old certainly brings a new perspective on life. Just recently I had to deal with an individual who still clings to drama in life and has yet to learn that, as a human, we feel emotions and it's a choice we make. In making that choice, it is also important for them to take responsibility for it. I constantly verbally repeat foundational truths in my life with one of them being: feel how you feel, take responsibility for how you feel, find a healthy way to deal with how you feel and you DO NOT have a right to take it out on other people. The individual I had to deal with has yet to learn that lesson and I am not sure they ever will. When I approached them about their actions, their immediate reaction was to become defensive and run from the situation. So be it. Another choice they are making.
Understand how you affect people around you. Understand that you do not live in a vacuum. Your actions and words DO affect others. This individual is hurting because of a recent loss in their life and they are angry. The anger came out as criticisms and verbal abuse. It was so bad, a couple of people were willing to let go of an activity they loved to avoid being around this person. Yes folks! We make decisions based on what others say and do around us. "Just ignore the other person" actually doesn't work. There is only so much people can take before they take action to protect themselves. That's just who we are.
The human condition is one of constant growth, re-evaluation, decisions and different states of being. We are in constant flux and change. We are fluid some times and rigid at others. This is who we are. We affect those around us. We are affected by those around us. We are moved deeply to emotions at times, at others we are barely phased. This is what makes us human. We are individuals with the greater whole. We live in a world of causality. Our words, our actions, our emotions have an effect on the greater whole.
Take a moment and pause long enough to tap into your humanity. What state of being are you in? How are you affecting the collective whole? Would you want to be your friend right now? What could you do for those around you? How can you be of service?
Do not let the human condition change your human condition