In my last blog, I talked about being connected to the oneness, the collective consciousness and how Gaia tells me that is done. We are all empathic with the ability to connect to all living beings including her. We sense what others feel and we feel what others sense.

In this blog, I am going to talk about those who appear to be disconnected from the oneness. Those individuals who feel that what they do "doesn't hurt or affect anyone else so why should anybody care!?" What brings an individual to the point where they would injure themselves and think no one is affected? Everyone is someone's child, friend, spouse, partner, parent...Everyone is connected to someone in some way. As many of you have done, I too have experienced trauma in my childhood and lived in silence for years. As Gaia once told me, the earth is a giant classroom and we are all here to learn. In order for us to "learn", stuff has to happen and people play their parts to make stuff happen. Do not judge your life experience against another's experience. The lessons are not the same and the depth of the learning is individual.

I am writing about this because I am currently being affected by an individual who is living a dangerous lifestyle. I have spoken with this individual to help them identify how their behaviour is affecting those around them. I have cajoled, I have tried to join them in their world and understand the driving force behind their life and I just cannot seem to break through the apathy. I cannot seem to influence their thinking and help them to understand they are more than what they believe they are, they are more than what they project themselves to be but nothing seems to work. As a shaman, I am very aware that the desire to heal must come from them rather than having me push it on them. How can someone who believes what they do doesn't affect anyone else even be aware that they can heal their fears, beliefs, blocks and barriers? The obvious answer is of course they cannot.

As a shaman, I am left with one clear path with this individual at this time. I must loose this individual from my life and let them continue in the stream of life. At some point, they may choose to heal and if not, it must be accepted that this is a choice they make for themselves. Before I cut this individual from my life, I will remind them of the collective, the oneness and how they are an important part of that oneness simply because they are here. We do not need to achieve great accomplishments or have lots of money or whatever to belong to the oneness. Just by the simple fact that we are here is what connects us. Just by the simple fact that we are perfect and infinite children of God that we are connected to the oneness. Remembering who we truly are is the goal of life and remembering we are loved, loving, lovable and infinitely adorable is what is required of us.

Even though I know this person is clearly on their own path and journey, I am saddened by the resistance and I foresee many difficult times ahead for this person. I harken back to my journey at the same age and recognize myself in this person. By the grace of God, I survived childhood, teen years and the early adult stage of life and many others have done as well. So, this individual will continue on their journey and make life choices they will choose to make. At some point in life, they may choose to remember they are connected to the collective and if they do, perhaps they will seek me out to help them heal. If not me, perhaps another individual.

I thank the universe for bringing this individual into my life and helping me to remember that people must voluntarily
step forward to heal. I also thank the universe for bringing you into my life and sharing who you are with me. Have a super day!

With blessings



21/04/2015 14:29

Hi thank you so much for posting this.. I can so relate with a friend that i will have to let go, she is a toxic friend, it will not be easy to do because of my empathy and compasion lol she tries to live like me and i had enough, she also tries to control my life with either myself, my kids or my boyfriend and iam sorry bit that is not what you call a friend.. Thank you thank you thank you
Love and light


Our actions, gestures and facial expressions actually affect other people around us. Thus, we must be careful with our actions. As the article says, the earth is a giant classroom and we are all here to learn. That is definitely true. We sometimes make mistakes through our careless actions and somehow it affects other people. But never ever forget that those are actually not mistakes, but a precious opportunity to learn.

25/10/2016 09:20

Our life is very difficult and we learn many things in life. We should keep best friends in life then we can get best things in life. I am extremely impressed by this post.

23/02/2017 12:03

If you aware then you are prepare. This is a golden rule!


Thank you so much for writing this. It helped me realize that I should keep away with people who are not good for us. I had this ex-girlfriend before who doesn't care much about studying. She just cares about where to party or where bar to drink. While me on the other hand, is focused on finishing college. She keeps on dragging me to parties, she keeps on getting mad at me whenever I study for exams. In short, she is insensitive and only cares about herself. I left her because she is toxic for my dreams and lifestyle.


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