Those of you who know me will understand the value I place on friendship and how much I "give away" without any recompense because Creator has guided it to be in the highest good to do so. Teaching other people to accept gifts is very important and part of the healing journey. My perception of the other person as being unreasonable and hard headed was based on my unwillingness to bend and compromise. We are indeed all mirrors of each other for each other, aren't we?
Because I am looking for it, there have been many situations over the last few weeks in my day job I can use as perfect examples for how perceptions cloud the message truly intended to be delivered.
I share these stories with you because it is important for everyone to understand how dangerous perceptions can be. The person receiving the message being delivered will hear the message based on their current situation and mind set. If the receiver of the message is ready for a good fight, the message will be perceived as a battle cry to take up arms. If the receiver of the message is peaceful and balanced, they will perceive the message as information to be absorbed and pondered.
How much misunderstanding drives our actions and outcomes? How many friendships and relationships have been damaged by incorrect perceptions? It is a story that plays itself out every day for those who are not careful. As a former instructor, I have always made it a rule in my classroom that if the receiver is not perceiving the message in the way I had intended it, then I was sending the wrong message. I took responsibility for the receiver's interpretation. It was easy for me to control the environment and establish the correct mind set for people in my computer courses thus making communication easier. It is extremely difficult, if not impossible, to establish the correct mind set outside of a very structured environment. The emphasis however is still on me to ensure the receiver of the message is able to articulate back to me the idea behind the message in such a way that it aligns with what I was originally trying to say.
This brings up another point about perceptions. In the classroom, it was my responsibility to ensure the message being delivered was correctly perceived and I had control over the mind set of the people sitting in that classroom because we were all there for a purpose: to learn about a specific subject. In the realm of every day life, is it my responsibility to ensure the message I am trying to deliver is correctly perceived? How much control do I really have over the person receiving the message? If it is important, I can certainly ask the person to repeat back to me what they believe they heard me say and I can correct any misunderstandings, couldn't I? What if they are still not getting it? What if they are unwilling to understand my message? Can I truly control what people think and how they perceive the message I am giving?
The answer to that is of course no because people make decisions about how they will perceive a message. If the message offends them, they have the absolute right to question the person delivering the message and ask for clarification of what was being said. But how many people take the time to do that? Have you ever said to someone "what you said has just offended me. Here is what I heard you say... Can you clarify if this is the message you are trying to get across?" Or do you simply assume the other person is meaning to offend and engaged in hostilities?
It is a difficult subject to discuss and one that continues to baffle. Some day soon, take the time to truly observe conversations and others' perceptions of what you say. It is truly an eye opener and a great lesson for all of us to learn.
Message from Creator:
"It is when a message is perceived by the head and not the heart that problems occur. Misinformation is a constant companion of strife and is a constant companion of disagreements. When communication is true and clear and accepted as intended that love is the result and healing occurs. It is unfortunate that perceptions are clouding truths and truths are lost in anger. If the truth was accepted as much as misinterpretations, peace would be the ultimate outcome and most desirable. Breathe and allow yourself to listen with your heart rather than with your head. It is important at this juncture in human evolution to begin to function at higher levels of vibration where misinterpretations do not happen because we communicate from spirit to spirit. Without subterfuge and without prejudices, simply love. We encourage you to begin silent communications from heart to heart, soul to soul, spirit to spirit. Much can be said without a word being spoken."