People are so fascinating for me. So many different varieties, shapes, sizes, personalities. Love them all, especially the ones who help me to learn lessons and evolve.
As a spiritualist, I am often asked about my views on religion. My standard response is, like everything in this world, religion has a part to play and lessons to teach. A gentle reminder that if the idea of religion stirs you in some way, there is something to be healed. What I am fascinated and excited about is when someone lives by their convictions and is not afraid to let the world know it.
I share that with you to tell you about what happened last night in the middle of nowhere Nova Scotia.
My husband Allan and I were driving from Baddeck to Louisburg NS. It was dark and we had finally found a hotel for the night. On our journey, we had to make an urgent pit stop. It was dark and we happened upon a restaurant with a neon open sign. Giving thanks to the universe, we stumbled out of our car and headed in. The restaurant was full and there was a line up for the washroom. In the line up in front of us were two Pentecostal ladies who were returning from a convention in Sydney and had stopped in the restaurant for dinner. From one of the ladies, I could sense stress and from the other, I sensed a tremendous peace and love. The second lady was a tiny thing, mid to late 60s with a face that had experienced the world. So much wisdom emanated from her.
As we waited, we chatted about why we were there. I mentioned Allan and I having difficulty finding a hotel room because of the Celtic Colour festival happening on the island and we finally found one with the help of a very nice lady from a local motel. She talked briefly about the convention they had attended. She was from Inverness and would be home in no time.
As she turned to leave, she put her hand on my arm and asked Jesus to bless me and my husband with an open door so we could rest for the night. She said Jesus was blessing me because I was such a nice person and so lovely. I was humbled by this woman and in awe of her deep belief in her saviour, Jesus Christ. She was not afraid to bless a complete stranger and did it without fear of judgement or retribution. In this world, how many others would have been glad to receive such a blessing from a stranger? I suspect most people would but there may be others who would be mightily offended by this gesture.
As the two women walked away to continue their journey home, I took a deep breath and could feel Jesus' presence. Not because I knew I could call on him anytime I chose but because this woman lived by the words of the ascended master we know as Jesus. There was a lesson for me in that exchange - remember that only through unconditional love for everyone including the self can we truly live life to the full and be the person we are truly meant to be.
Gifts and lessons come to us in many ways and in many forms. I was blessed last night to have both come in the form of a lady from Inverness NS who I will probably never meet again in this lifetime and who made an indelible mark on my life just because of who she is.
I wish to be just like her and touch people's lives for the better. How about you?
Being human is one of the hardest existences for a spirit because of this thing I cannot describe but love to call the human condition. There are many facets to the human condition, one of which I have labeled "the turtle syndrome."
I have encountered this syndrome my whole life and before living my life in truth, I actively participated in this practice. The turtle syndrome is the act of clumsily moving through life, unexpectedly striking out at someone around you then quickly withdrawing to avoid the backlash of your actions. You could also call this "lack of accountability for your own actions."
Right now, a few friends and I are having to deal with someone who invoked "the turtle syndrome." The challenge in dealing with this is that, unless your friends are enlightened and aware of this behaviour, they allow themselves to become victims to this behaviour. The victims feed the energy behind this action and even if the strike was not meant for them, they put themselves posthumously in the way of the strike. It's a very interesting situation to watch.
In other words, people make themselves victims of another's actions even when they were not initially involved. The big question of course is why? Why do people do that?
The answer is very easy: the drama feeds their existence. I say this with all the love in my heart for everyone. Some people (I used to be one of them so I speak from experience) invoke drama as a way to know they are alive and they exist. They engage in the drama to get some attention, any attention from someone outside of themselves. Everyone does it or has done it in their lives at some point so let's be careful lest we point fingers.
Why do people invoke the "turtle syndrome" in the first place? Ever heard of the expression "hurting people hurt people?" That's the reason. When life is peaceful and moving along nicely, you don't have the time, the energy or the desire to engage in drama. If you are hurting, you want someone to help you and because we are a society where asking for help appears to be a weakness, we lash out and hurt others instead. We mirror externally how we are feeling internally. Unfortunately, because many of us are driven by fear and lack confidence, we automatically assume this is about us, we take it personally and become wounded. The truth of course, is that the person who invoked the "turtle syndrome" is asking for help. Unless they choose someone who is aware and seeing the truth of the situation, they get retaliation instead of help.
What's the solution to the "turtle syndrome?" It's easy but it's difficult. If you are hurting, ask for help. It's amazing the amount of support you will get. Don't buy into the belief asking for help is a weakness. It takes a stronger person to admit they need help rather than dealing with it on their own. That's the definition for insanity. For those individuals who feel like a victim of "turtle syndrome," understand that it's not about you. It's about the turtle and that they are asking for help. Take yourself out of the drama and ask the obvious questions...what's wrong, how are you hurting and what do you need help with?
You would be surprised how quickly the turtle goes away and how much the other person will appreciate the compassion. Of course, most people will get angry and deny anything is wrong and that's a choice they make but I find most people do eventually admit they are hurting and need help. It's quite magical.
Remember, the human condition has many layers to it. The "turtle syndrome" is only one but in every layer, it's always about the individual and not the person on the receiving end. If we can all understand that, the world would be a much more peaceful place to be.